Experts tell us that when you give a
child a consequence for their actions
be CERTAIN that you can follow through
with what you are telling them. For
example, if you tell your child that
they don't get to drive the car for
the next two weeks because they came
home after 2am instead of their curfew
of 10pm then you need to follow
through and not give Bubba the car
keys. Most parents would nod their
heads in agreement and feel like this
is a rational thing to do.
The thing is,
when we are in the heat of an argument
with our kids, all rationality goes
out the door. We give consequences
that there is absolutely no follow
through for. If we did them, we'd be
it! I have had it up to here! (Imagine
Mother with very red face making line
with hand over her head). One more
word out of any of you and I'm selling
you ALL on Ebay for 50 cents
They are not
worried. I tried to sell the cat on
Ebay for 50 cents once and only got a
question from a possible buyer asking
if he'd ever done Nine Lives
commercials. He had not.
you EVER do that again or you'll be
grounded for the next TEN
You and I both
know that would be more of a
punishment to the parent then it would
the kid. Now you're both in
confinement and you only have your
retirement days to look forward to.
Or this one
while driving in a very loaded van
with very noisy children. You use this
line to gain control: "That's it!
EVERYBODY STOP DOING WHATEVER IT IS
pass out as they stop breathing.
Or how about
this one: "Make that face again
mister and I'll smack you into next
How do you
smack someone into next week? And how
strange would that be if you could?
sure, Momma smacked him into next
week, so he's probably somewhere
around Tuesday by now."
If we could
we'd smack OURSELVES into next week
just to have a mini vacation!
strange things parents say in the heat
of the moment are: "Don't eat
with your mouth full!" or
"Don't look at me with that tone
The thing is
it's proven that after having kids you
loose brain cells. After dealing with
all the things kids give you to deal
with, you definitely loose more.
experts of course have their point.
Give a consequence that you are
CERTAIN you can follow through on is
what they say.
trying to figure out if any of the
experts have children.
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Alice is a 42 year old stay-at-home Mom
who lives near Atlanta, Georgia. She and her
husband Richard have a blended family with 5
boys. She has two books published by Publish